Negative Peculiarities Of Your Existence... [Archive]

Veilingmeat

06-25-2005, 05:35 PM

Since we need more topics...

What are the worst/most negative things about your character? I think it would be interesting if we share this with each other, maybe there will be some surprising issues ("I had never expected you to be that kind of person" etc, you know what I mean).

I guess these peculiarities belong to my "dark side" hehe:
-I can be an extremely lazy git towards deadlines, causing me having to do all the work in crunch time (but: the positive thing is that once I'm at full speed, I really work fast and still be very thorough and efficient)
-sometimes I'm one of those act-before-thinking lads, at times I can be way too impulsive
-I hardly have any limits in humour, which is not always a positive thing. I mean like if someone would say "well my father died of cancer", I really have to bite my tongue in order not to reply with "well congratulations". A few times I haven't been able to resist the temptation, which is of course a bad thing in terms of social contacts . But I guess this correlates a bit with being too impulsive. :muhaha:

georger

06-26-2005, 04:14 AM

What are the worst/most negative things about your character?

If I'm left alone for too long, I get very negative about myself and perhaps get to feeling a little paranoid.

It's really hard to fight it. I went to a psychiatrist for this, I was fighting depression for a few years, even bipolar symptoms. I had suicidal thoughts and my relationship with my wife was (and remains) very taxing, very exhausting for me emotionally. It's a very one-sided relationship.

Cognitive therapy - where I learned to recognize harmful thought patterns and learned to gain control over some of them - was very helpful. Luckily I needed no drugs to help me over this. But it's been very easy for me to be overcome and overloaded with demands from others....I had to learn how to put my foot down and say NO - that was really hard to learn, it felt like so much betrayal!

But my strength and my weakness remains - I'm very sensitive, always have been. I'm 38 years old and yet I remember still as a pre-teen being very sensitive about things, about people's emotions, thoughts and events. I have a freakish memory that in some things can go back almost the entire 38 years and I seem to pick up on every little nuance and detail.

Yes, I have had some very strange and very intense experiences, you could call them psychic experiences but not in any stereotypical sense (because most psychics are full of $%#@).

And if left unwanted for too long, I can deflate rapidly, falling into a spiral. I need to be wanted for more than mere hobbies, needed for useful things which are positive yet can also pay a living wage.

kjm030584

06-26-2005, 11:59 AM

Wow... it would probably be easier to just say what's good about me :lol:

LonelyLullaby

06-26-2005, 02:31 PM

Kyle I'm sure that this is not true :P
I guess the bad part about my character is that I'm over-sensitive
And because of that I become easily hurt and offended- and in turn defensive
I don't mean that I necessarily hurt people's feelings or become rude, but I just make a big deal out of things :)
And I guess when I'm left alone I don't have so many negative thoughts- it's more that I drive myself crazy with over-thinking and analyzing things
I don't know what's worse ;)

Eibhlin

06-26-2005, 10:19 PM

-i have a wierd sense of humor, like this one time when i was in field hockey we were playing red rover for an agility exercise, and this girl lisa hooked her neck on our arms and flipped over and i started laughing before asking if she was ok...didnt go over well there

-i have serious anti-social streaks, the only thing keeping me from being a hermit i think sometimes is my kids and husband

-i am over-sensitive to criticism, which in turn leads to defensiveness

-i myself can be overly critical (which can be used for good or evil i guess)

-i can be stubborn which can lead to being argumentive

-i tend to be a procrastinator and put things off to the last minute then rush like mad to get things done...like putting off for years a drawing i need to do for my friend, but then it seems things almost come out better sometimes when i am in that frenzy to get it done you know?

i think that is it...

Little Bird

06-27-2005, 12:04 AM

Well I'm just great so nothing to see here! :D

Ok kidding.

~ I talk too much and I give too much away about myself and it has more often then not, been one of my downfalls. I am trying to be more conservative about what I share about myself. But then again the talking too much is also just annoying for other people but it is a part of me so, tough!

~ I have been known to see the bad in people before I see the good. It doesn't happen too often but enough for me to hate that about myself and try to change it. (It's not very buddhist so I am trying hard)

~ I jump to conclusions. I don't know why but I always do. Someone would be tell me a story and I keep jumping in with what I think will come next and it annoys people. I know I do it, I know I shouldn't but I still do. I'm getting better though.

~ I do not take criticism well. If I am criticised about something I don't like about myself, I go into this depression of self loathing because someone else has noticed it and thinks the same. OR if I am criticised for a well intentioned deed that I think I did well in. I have broad shoulders, I can take general criticism or ignore it. It's those niggly things like my weight or my appearance but it depends on who's doing the criticising.

MrCC

06-27-2005, 05:58 AM

I am paranoid abour revealing personal information. That's all I care to say. :P

LonelyLullaby

06-27-2005, 01:54 PM

~ I talk too much and I give too much away about myself and it has more often then not, been one of my downfalls. I am trying to be more conservative about what I share about myself. But then again the talking too much is also just annoying for other people but it is a part of me so, tough!

Why has that been one of your "downfalls"? I do that as well- and my mother constantly tells me to stop telling people so much about myself
But I don't think it's a bad thing- is it? If you are open with people?
I mean you who cares if people know? The more you say about yourself especially if you are in trouble- the more people you can turn to eventually
And I guess another bad thing about my character is that I'm a very weak little girl :) I mean weak-willed
I can't make myself do anything and I'd rather (much rather) be a follower than a leader

Eibhlin

06-27-2005, 06:56 PM

I'd rather (much rather) be a follower than a leader

lol, same here, i don't even like to walk first into restaraunts or anything, i make joe or whoever i am with go first...it drives my friend kathy batty!

Veilingmeat

06-27-2005, 09:37 PM

I'm over-sensitive
And because of that I become easily hurt and offended- and in turn defensive
I don't mean that I necessarily hurt people's feelings or become rude, but I just make a big deal out of things
am over-sensitive to criticism, which in turn leads to defensiveness

My oh my....its all becoming quite clear!!! :D
LonelyLullaby,Eibhlin...wont we all agree we've seen this happen on the 'New Artical' thread :P
Im surprised nobody else has posted there negative peculiarities...considering the amount of "heat" that went on in there!?

and as for georger!!!! blimy...you make it sound as if you've been through one rough time m8 to hell and back!?......I'm 30 years old and yet I remember still as a pre-teen being very sensitive about things...so your not the only one ;)

Veilingmeat

06-27-2005, 10:30 PM

I must also state that iv had the fasination for the German Third Reich for many years now,as i am 1/4 German anyhowz!1/4 Italian and the rest English...so all in all that kinda makes me half Facist i guess :unsure:
...and in no way am i a Nazi or racist by all means...although all my freinds call me "Nazi Marc" :P

But my point is the amount of negative thoughts i have towards humankind and so on is very dark indeed!? its as tho iv the mind of a little boy,playing his war games and soldiers in his mind wherever he goes lolzzzzz!!!!(i have) :P
-I know this is a bit odd to what others and myself have been saying,but it is a strange thing when you think about it...the fact i praise the Waffen SS & Wehrmacht fighting soldiers of WWII,despite there atrocities on the battlefield! and how i shun & joke about the American,and British forces in there Normandy campaign...when they fought and died to save us from the dreaded Reich!?
-I can be very stubborn about this subject and wont shut up...boring people to death (as i prolly already have) and wont realise how rude iv been (not a good thing eh!?)

Eibhlin

06-27-2005, 10:32 PM

:P ^_^ better watch it buddy, you don't want to incite feelings of being criticized, we may get defensive and gang up on you, of course we will have to find someone to lead the way for us.... :P ^_^ :ph43r:

Veilingmeat

06-28-2005, 12:41 AM

:o Gang up on me!!!!???? the poor veilingmeat :mecry:

anywayz...never get defensive,always ATTACK!!! and you need a leader eh? then look no further than me SS-Obergruppenf?hrer Veilingmeat...but not of the cross dressing sort of Nazi officer!

and for my Childish mind of war games i found this on the net:
http://www.pzg.biz/figure_hitler_box.jpg

My own hitler doll :lol: ...how cool is that! :clapjoy:
Thats hours of fun creating pedigree Action Men,Barbie dolls and Ken's to rule the world of figures LMAO!!!!

Justin thinks my posts dont make any sense..this has got to beat them all i think,Pure madness :wacko:

MrCC

06-28-2005, 01:09 AM

Originally posted by Veilingmeat@Jun 27 2005, 04:41 PM
:o Gang up on me!!!!???? the poor veilingmeat :mecry:

anywayz...never get defensive,always ATTACK!!! and you need a leader eh? then look no further than me SS-Obergruppenf?hrer Veilingmeat...but not of the cross dressing sort of Nazi officer!

and for my Childish mind of war games i found this on the net:
http://www.pzg.biz/figure_hitler_box.jpg

My own hitler doll :lol: ...how cool is that! :clapjoy:
Thats hours of fun creating pedigree Action Men,Barbie dolls and Ken's to rule the world of figures LMAO!!!!

Justin thinks my posts dont make any sense..this has got to beat them all i think,Pure madness :wacko:
I had a room mate in college tho was a WWII collector. His side of the room had a Nazi banner on the wall, a German soldier helmet, and a dummy hand grenade. He wasn't a Nazi, just a history major who read books about famous battles for fun.

LonelyLullaby

06-28-2005, 02:02 PM

My oh my....its all becoming quite clear!!! :D
LonelyLullaby,Eibhlin...wont we all agree we've seen this happen on the 'New Artical' thread :P
Im surprised nobody else has posted there negative peculiarities...considering the amount of "heat" that went on in there!?

We haven't seen this in the "New Article" thread- because there wasn't all that much of an amount of "heat" going on there
People are just making a big deal out of this- relax- it was just an exchange of opinions
And Eibhlin you're the best ;)
About leadership- I usually "walk" beside not behind, but if someone takes control they are free to ^_^

bluediamond

06-28-2005, 02:05 PM

This is a really interesting subject.

Now i dont think i have a darkside or in fact any unusual weird things going on inside my head. But!

I have messed about with Gothic stuff and i love things like regression and being hynotised, in fact i used to do a bit of self hypnosis mainly for relaxation etc.

Other than admitting to listening to the Cure in the 80's thats about it. Oh one other thing seeing as we are opening up our souls lol, i do like somthing really really sick' ........i like..................watching big brother :blink: yep, when it comes down to it im just a nasty voyeur lol.

:lalala:
Dave.

Eibhlin

06-28-2005, 02:13 PM

My own hitler doll ...how cool is that!
Thats hours of fun creating pedigree Action Men,Barbie dolls and Ken's to rule the world of figures LMAO!!!!

with my amazing "psychic" powers i predict the disappearance of blonde barbie and ken dolls from toys store shelves worldwide...when people ask "What has happened to our unrealisticly narrow hipped, long legged, flaxen locked playthings...." investigations will lead us to Veilingmeats home, where blonde Kens in Nazi regalia and tiny moustaches will be battling the dark haired Kens as the Barbies look on...

sounds like an episode for the outer limits or something :silly:

hmm, who's not making sense now :blink:

Veilingmeat

06-30-2005, 12:21 AM

We haven't seen this in the "New Article" thread- because there wasn't all that much of an amount of "heat" going on there
People are just making a big deal out of this- relax- it was just an exchange of opinions
Aye i hear what your saying,and i did'nt mean it that way! its just the fact that many peoples opinions were over exspressive (including my own) about topics that arose within there...and i meant as in "heat" as anticipation for Jewels new album and whay have you...

I had a room mate in college tho was a WWII collector. His side of the room had a Nazi banner on the wall, a German soldier helmet, and a dummy hand grenade. He wasn't a Nazi, just a history major who read books about famous battles for fun.
Oi cool...very much like meself Mike ;) do you still know the guy?

LonelyLullaby

06-30-2005, 02:37 PM

Aye i hear what your saying,and i did'nt mean it that way! its just the fact that many peoples opinions were over exspressive (including my own) about topics that arose within there...and i meant as in "heat" as anticipation for Jewels new album and whay have you...

Alright ;)

MrCC

06-30-2005, 07:55 PM

Originally posted by Veilingmeat@Jun 29 2005, 04:21 PM
We haven't seen this in the "New Article" thread- because there wasn't all that much of an amount of "heat" going on there
People are just making a big deal out of this- relax- it was just an exchange of opinions
Aye i hear what your saying,and i did'nt mean it that way! its just the fact that many peoples opinions were over exspressive (including my own) about topics that arose within there...and i meant as in "heat" as anticipation for Jewels new album and whay have you...

Oi cool...very much like meself Mike ;) do you still know the guy?
No we lost touch. Some day I might look him up again. I know where his parents live so it might not be too hard.

Eibhlin

07-03-2005, 11:59 PM

Veilingmeat

07-04-2005, 04:01 PM

hmmmm,strange...but your one of the most social people on here! well i think so anyway

Eibhlin

07-04-2005, 04:30 PM

:P i know, strange isn't it? lol, it's like i dont want people tp see me when i am socializing ^_^

Little Bird

07-05-2005, 07:53 PM

Personally I go through phases of being visible or not but only about 1% of the time am I invisible. And there's usually a reason.

Oh and Dave...The Cure are cool now so you're allowed to admit it. Bet you wore the makeup too when no-one was watching, but hey, were not here to discuss what you are entitled to do on your own weekends when you like to be called Beryl.

Eibhlin

07-06-2005, 02:41 AM

wow, so dave's really dark side personality involves him as a cross dressing oompa-loompa in disguise as a Cure fan...wow, dave that is pretty freaky dude! :blink: :omg:

Veilingmeat

07-07-2005, 10:03 PM

lol,Ay...comon now lets not takey the micky outa dave, coz i used to be a bit of a cure fan! :lol:

I must also say i'v noticed another flaw within myself! when i post something....i just post it! not even taking into consideration what i'v just said.Firstly i'v posted my desire for a half naked cave girl on the 'kilcherian survivor' thread,when i should'nt have...and then i slagged off the poor old french on the 'london olympics'thread without even thinking if there were any of our garlic loving chumz on this forum :rolleyes:
...and on another forum i eeerr said something kinda nasty about arabs! :unsure: which is bad,coz the minority of muslims are not to blame for the sick acts of terrorism thats recently happened...but i kinda jumped ahead of my anger and said bad things!!!
So i could sum this all up and say i'v got a sort of "tunnel vision" of thought and jump to conclusions with the snap of a finger...dont quite know how else to put it?

Little Bird

07-07-2005, 10:08 PM

You're not the only one Meat. I terrible for jumping to conclusions and also for saying before thinking which means those weird things you would often think in your head about stuff you know people will only think your weird for, and would never say...I just say it. I'm getting better though.

Veilingmeat

07-07-2005, 11:41 PM

Phew...and i thought i was the only one :lol:
i guess we'll have to revise ourselves in a way! and slap ourself from time to time!!!

Edited for Sado-Masochist reasons :P

Eibhlin

07-11-2005, 11:03 PM

ahem!! lol, i believe this is a sado-masochistic free forum...self inflicted or otherwise!! dont make me scribble about you!!!!! ;) -_- :read: :shock:

Veilingmeat

06-03-2007, 03:54 AM

:P i have developed a paranoia of being on active users lists, i am normally invisible on messenger, and hiding on the JKF...dont ask, i think it stems from deep rooted anti socialistic tendencies

Reading through this thread of old....You still do lurk in the shadows Andrea :tongue:

But i tell you the REAL reason i 'reactivated' this ye olde thread, is because of my general concern for my hatred towards the general public...now this stems from my job (obviously) i deal with lazy, rude, arrogant, obnoxious arseholes all day long, and even when i'm on the streets like last night, i'll rip into stupid gits that get in my way, spill my pint or walk into me!!! i'd say this really stems from Friday afternoon at work when this complete and utter tit called me a C.U.Next Teusday...a lazy :censored::censored::censored::censored::censored::censored::censored:...all coz he wanted a hand lifting a poxy bed-base, i was too busy...an 8yo could lift one of those alone :angry: and HE thought that he pays my wages, well with that i asked for my £991 monthly wage packet right there and then from him...but he never had the cash :sad: i actualy banned the stupid weakling old fop from the site!
But in all fairness dealing with 'SHEEPLE' allday long with Neanderthal brains in Cro-Magnon body...with there I.Q. down to room temperature..a Hamburger short of a happymeal, am i supposed to be this disrespectful to general ppl!? a bad darkside to have eh...maybe i just need some time off???
But is anyone else like this towards ppl in general when your treated like a lump of turd? or is it just me :tongue:

DreamsLast

06-03-2007, 05:21 AM

last_dance_rodeo

06-03-2007, 02:31 PM

let's see, i have a really hard time taking a joke, it usually ends up with me taking something the wrong way

Eibhlin

06-03-2007, 10:41 PM

oh, I also tend to be neurotic

just ask the friends I call 50 zillion times when they dont call back

ha ha ha

Veilingmeat

06-10-2007, 03:35 PM

oh, I also tend to be neurotic

just ask the friends I call 50 zillion times when they dont call back

ha ha ha

hehe...likewise here!!! but not always

ItBeThatWay27

06-10-2007, 06:31 PM

If I'm left alone for too long, I get very negative about myself and perhaps get to feeling a little paranoid.

It's really hard to fight it. I went to a psychiatrist for this, I was fighting depression for a few years, even bipolar symptoms. I had suicidal thoughts and my relationship with my wife was (and remains) very taxing, very exhausting for me emotionally. It's a very one-sided relationship.

Cognitive therapy - where I learned to recognize harmful thought patterns and learned to gain control over some of them - was very helpful. Luckily I needed no drugs to help me over this. But it's been very easy for me to be overcome and overloaded with demands from others....I had to learn how to put my foot down and say NO - that was really hard to learn, it felt like so much betrayal!

But my strength and my weakness remains - I'm very sensitive, always have been. I'm 38 years old and yet I remember still as a pre-teen being very sensitive about things, about people's emotions, thoughts and events. I have a freakish memory that in some things can go back almost the entire 38 years and I seem to pick up on every little nuance and detail.

Yes, I have had some very strange and very intense experiences, you could call them psychic experiences but not in any stereotypical sense (because most psychics are full of $%#@).

And if left unwanted for too long, I can deflate rapidly, falling into a spiral. I need to be wanted for more than mere hobbies, needed for useful things which are positive yet can also pay a living wage.

Ok this reminds me of me. When I am alone I get seriously paranoid and yes sensitive and blah blah. I am not sure about any sort of bipolar symptoms, though. I have never talked to a psychologist or any professional but I do understand the over-sensitive and over-paranoid stuff. You are 38 and I am 23, makes me nervous that this emotional BS I deal with all the time won't be going away any time soon.....

wackyoverkhaki

06-24-2007, 03:12 AM

I'm nonviolent and chaste, but other than that I think I've committed every other sin in the book. I'm guilty of laziness (procrastination is my middle name) and I'm pretty dishonest with my parents at times to cover up my laziness. I even used to steal cash from them...but fortunately I've gotten over that. But I still steal candy and school supplies. I'm guilty of pride but it's kind of hard not to be when you're forced to work with degenerates. Oh yeah and I'm obsessed with my hair and clothes...does that make me vain? I don't care about what other people wear though. Also I feel more naturally sympathetic towards animals than people, which is wrong, I think...
Well it felt good to get that off my chest in writing:o:lmao:

DreamsLast

06-24-2007, 05:11 AM

I've been accused of being overly "maternal" to my friends, sometimes possessive of friends/family/significant other, I am stubborn as a mule, can be bossy and not even realize it until it's too late, and since I'm a perfectionist I expect everyone else to be held to that same standard so I tend to criticize people too much.....either to myself or verbally. The latter gets me in trouble!

Also since I'm still recovering from being shy my whole life, sometimes people think me being aloof is the same as being "stuck up". I"m not stuck up, I'm just shy. There is a difference!! I like to sit back and observe things. I'm very introspective; a deep thinker. (I think that's why I like Jewel's music.) I'm better at writing than I am at verbal communication. The truth is that I just don't know what to say, I get all nervous when I have to talk to people I don't know or don't know well. Sometimes I have a hard time getting past saying to people 'hi' or 'how are you?'.....it's frustrating. I think I am shy because I had a very outgoing mother. She overshadowed me my whole life. I couldn't get a word in edgewise, so I just learned to sit back and keep to myself. My dad is also rather reserved, so I hung out with him a lot. I'm a daddy's girl!! Sometimes I get angry at my mom for this but it's not her fault. I only wish she would've tried to get me to be more outgoing, to break me out of my shell when I was younger. Then I wouldn't be a nervous wreck all the time now as an adult.

Sometimes I wish there was such a thing as a personality transplant.....I'd glady be the first to sign up!!! Give me an outgoing, laid back personality please! ;-)

007

06-24-2007, 06:20 PM

I know what you're saying, I didn't exactly believe in holding people to my standards of justice and I oftentimes broke my own rules. As a bounty hunter, I found it difficult to find out what exactly is justice, what is morally, ehthically, and socially (as well as leglly) right or wrong.

These 'Socratic' methodological questions make me believe that there is no true, raw form of justice but only what a collaboration of men form together as something or the 'common good' of the people.

ROBARE

06-27-2007, 12:10 AM

Moral code is way high,which makes me ride alone because most people don't carry that sword
People say they will and then don't touches a nerve that has no forgiveness in my book
Stubborn as mule because I think I'm right

kelane6

06-27-2007, 09:42 PM

I am so not a leader, I don't mind that though. Someone has to be behind the leader getting the grunt work done! My negative point is that I am alot of contridictions. I don't want to lead but think my ways are best...I don't want to make decisions but am first to say when someone else's decision is wrong....I always except people to do things or react the way I would and so am constantly surprised and disappointed when they don't....I want to expect the best and have hope, but the worst case senario always comes to mind instead. I am also overly sensitive and tend to take things too personal. Alot of stuff I guess. I also tend to say too much about myself, I'll talk about anything. Which has been know to be too much! I don't think this is so bad as long as I remember to keep other people's parts in my life private for their sake. I also tend to ramble!

bluediamond

07-04-2007, 08:01 PM

I cant spell and i live too much in the past.
When i start something i need to finish it and i will not stop until im done, i think it comes from my Viking heritage :)

lalalala
dave.

ItBeThatWay27

07-04-2007, 08:19 PM

Dave I didn't know you were Norwegian..

Eibhlin

07-05-2007, 01:15 AM

I am brooding and somewhat anti-social, i think it comes from my Finnish heritage-lol

last_dance_rodeo

07-05-2007, 01:27 AM

I have little patience -german heritage and I've got a huge nose

bluediamond

07-05-2007, 04:28 PM

My surname ends in 'SON'

This in history viking means son of the first part of my name:

So, jeg est tdar :)

lalalala
dave

007

07-05-2007, 04:44 PM

SO does mine, but I'm not Norwegian.

'Markinson' is my last name and it probably means 'Son of Mark' or somehting.

Veilingmeat

07-05-2007, 07:38 PM

Dont have to classed as 'Norwegian' mate...but more Scandinavian, may even be Swedish?! i know i'v mentioned elsewhere that i'm 1/4 Italian! prolly why this time of year i'm a rampant S.O.B towards Women!!!! gaaaaah i adore em! then again you dont have to be Italian to be a raging perv hehe....i think i'm turning into a god damn sexual tyrannosaurus forgive me!

Eibhlin

07-05-2007, 09:58 PM

deep down, aren't we all just rampant sexual tyrannasaurus'?

Veilingmeat

07-05-2007, 10:38 PM

if you say so Andrea hehe :tongue:

last_dance_rodeo

07-06-2007, 03:13 AM

coughyescough

Eibhlin

07-06-2007, 03:57 PM

if you say so Andrea hehe :tongue:

hey you're the one with a panzer-thing in your trousers after all

but I digress, back to the subject

so I recently had started a new medication, and apparently since I am not used to taking meds of any form the side effects seem to be pretty strong for me, one of which is teeth clenching, so my freaking teeth HUUUURT
plus I am all like groggy and stuff

so it would seem that the medication meant to make me less stressed just turned me into ta teeth gnashing zombie

007

07-06-2007, 06:49 PM

The negative peculiarity of my existence is that I'm constantly in a pissing contest with my cowowrkers. We lal try to see who's organ is bigger, figuratively speaking. We all look alike to the normal population, all yuppies. But we consider ourselves 'one up' on each other.

Prime example, I'm mistaken by my colleague yesterday for another worker, 'Richardson has mistaken me for this dickhead Chad Johnson. It seems logical because we both work in the same firm and he does the exact same job that I do. He also has a penchant for Turnbull and Asser shirts and Brooks Brothers glasses. Chad and I even go to the same barber, although I have a slightly better haircut.

I'm also extremely vain, I've noticed.

I live in the American Gardens Building on NOrth 76th Avenue on the 23rd floor. I believe in taking care of myself in a well balanced diet and rigorous exercise routine. In the morning if my face is a little puffy, I'll put on an ice pack while doing stomach crunches. I can do 1000 now.

After I remove the ice pack, I use a deep pore cleanser lotion from ZIHR. In the shower I use a water activated gel cleanser from John ALlan's, then a honey-almond body scrub, and on the face an exfoliating gel scrub, followed by a facial soap from Clinique. Then I apply an herb-mint facial mask, which I leave on for 10 minutes while I prepare the rest of my routine.

I use one of several shaving creams, never gels. I use Eton College shaving brush cream, or Geo F. Trumpers Lime shaving brush cream. I use a double edged razor in a lacquered wooden handle from 'The Shave' that was a gift the manager sent me. This provides well for a traditional shave but also gives effect to reducing my skin one layer dialy so therefore the slight pain of daily shaving is now beneficial for the products to get inside the skin and work.

I always use an after shave lotion with little or no alcohol, because alcohol dries your face out and makes you look older, usually a lime aftershave that an apothecary makes bespoke for me or ZIHR SOOTHE. Then moisturizer, from Shiseido wihta non oily base to it, then an anti-aging eye balm followed by a final moisturizing protective lotion.

Little things like that make me more and more vain with each ongoing day. ANother example, I carry three handkerchieves with me at all times. I carry one cotton (never linen) pocket square for my suit jacket, always white and never used. I carry one that is usually quite stained with my own blood dabbling from various wounds, and i keep that one tucked into my right hip pocket. In the right breast pocket of my jacket, I always carry one clean, unstarched handkerchief that is slightly touched in a lime lotion wihtout alcohol, so that should a lady need one, it will not burn her eyes nor nose, and will smell refreshingly pleasant. This segues beautifully into a well-affected introduction.

I tried to tell you all that I am vain.